Well, well, yesterday I broke my record for shortest post. A handful of words with a spelling mistake, and nothing more! This is because I was trying to multitask, as moms always do, and was blogging on the floor while my curious one year old tried to touch my iPad…and scared me into pressing “publish” by accident instead of “save draft,” before getting up to put my iPad away. So sorry to all my followers who received this weirdo post in their email inboxes!
What I meant to write about “brilliant yet simple parenting advice” (see my last post) was something like this:
Attention Modern Parents! The answer to all your woes is here! Would you like a simple way to advance your child’s social, intellectual and emotional development? Would you like them to be entertained for hours without your having to play clown? For them to learn their numbers, letters and colours with without you teaching them? For their speech and vocabulary to develop rapidly? For them to feel safe, happy and confident that they can contribute to the world?
Modern parents, ever concerned with their child keeping up with age-appropriate development, are salivating but clutching their wallets nervously. What could this secret solution be, and how much will it cost? Is it Baby Einstein DVDs, expensive preschool, private tutors for toddlers, a magic diet of organic seaweed? What could it be?!
The solution in fact is simple, natural, and fun to make.
It’s a sibling.
And if this seems too simple, here’s some photographic evidence:
First of all, despite excessive media paranoia about sibling jealousy, little kids naturally love babies, and therefore each other.
Having siblings does a lot of good things in a simple way.
Stimulating the imagination and developing speech = playing puppets
Encouraging them to observe their natural surroundings =
ants on the driveway are exciting when you look at them together
Expressing emotion and developing socially = playing dress up
Developing patience and delaying gratification =
waiting for your turn to ride the unicorn
Promoting contentment and appreciation for simple pleasures =
an hour whips by when you have a box and a baby to play with
Teaching responsibility and concern for others =
giving your baby brother a ride to the park
Building confidence and a sense of worth =
I’m a big sister and can take care of the baby
Promoting social development, building friendship and trust =
crossing the road together is safer and more fun
Stimulating a love for learning = big sister plays teacher
Kids pick up what’s around them so when they are surrounded with other little people they learn to speak, walk, sing ABC’s, count, dance, play, paint and draw without you as a parent even having to teach them. This has been my experience anyway. They also learn how to defend themselves, how to be loyal, and how to care for others. These are all great life skills, and hard to teach in a course.
So instead of frantically signing your kid up for Ferber, Gerber, Berber and every other new method that claims to be the magic solution for healthy development, how about signing them up for life by allowing them to experience the magic of family.
Besides, being the only can be lonely, especially when mom and dad are so busy taking care of things.
And as one added bonus, although you may be tired at the end of the day, so are your little fairies, who have been running themselves ragged playing together all day. You can enjoy some blissful quiet time…perhaps reading, blogging, or just staring at them thinking how beautiful they are when asleep.